"Don't be alone in all this"... asking for help as our greatest act of strength.

"It's always darkest before the dawn".

We are often encouraged to rely on our own strength in life. To stand on our own feet and meet challenges with great stoicism, optimism and resilience. 

At times, this drive needs diverting and collaboration, in the form of helping hands, a listening ear and perhaps something as simple as a hug.

It is rare for most of us to initiate the help we need, to feel comfortable enough to reach out to those we love or trust and to lean into our vulnerability. Often due to time, pride, fear of rejection or exposure, we turn inwards and dig for our own resources.

The other side of vulnerability however is strength and confidence in ourselves and in the care of others. 

It is a mistake to retreat or to paper over our experiences - despite its initial safety. It’s important to cultivate a habit of reaching out when we are in need and accepting the help offered. To find ease in expression or the act of confiding is the beginning of total honesty, trust and transparency with those around us: and with ourselves. 

It is, after all, possible to be surrounded by people but still feel alone, isolated and unheard. That is enough indication to suggest we are simply not sharing our experiences, speaking from our hearts or revealing our fragilities. Which is what we must do the most when under strain.

The simple truth is that all of us are the result of many tiny hands, many small words of encouragement, and many whispers of laughter and kindness.

True resilience, true independence, responsibility and strength in life is actually found in dependency. In demonstrable moments of sharing, leaning and asking for help. Pride or fear are simply the first layer - behind which lies a better embrace of life, greater joy and a greater sense of ease.